Sunday, 23 December 2018

We'd rather turn to no-one than the church.

If you’re feeling like you want to die, Get Help Now

Yesterday while out for a run with a client we were talking about church. I laughed and told her I wasn’t allowed to go to mine. I told her my story and how it lead, in part, to my suicide attempt. I don’t think I spoke badly about the church except to say that they were mistaken in how they handled things. I recounted that when I trained for my ASIST suicide prevention certificate, I had broken down in tears, how when the trainer asked if I had any support I broke down even further because I had lost my church family.

Of the many things I’ve learned about suicide, a real big one is that isolation is dangerous.

Also on the ASIST course I had a revelation - that rather than stay bitterly hurt and angry at the church for not listening to my screams, the solution was in education. They had acted in love, but in ignorance, and I have spoken to too many others who’ve had a similar experience.

That photo above shouts out the problem and this same pattern is repeated hundreds of times over - people who are struggling to cope with suicidal thoughts do not turn to the church. In fact, they would prefer to tell no-one. 

If the church really is God’s solution, and I believe it is, then something is terribly wrong, but what can we do about it? Well, we've stared by launching RunningSpace
At RunningSpace we are returning to that original goal of Running to beat suicide. How? By educating communities in
safeTALK, focusing on Christians (who are the church, I don’t give a crap about denominations or buildings) and by
Running in the Gap adventures.

I’ve been guilty of watering down the RunningSpace message in order to be ‘inclusive’ – but really, there are more Christians in the world that I could possibly run with or educate!

2018 has been a huge learning curve and there have been many successes. More importantly, lives have been saved and changed.

In 2019, we need your help. Would you please pray for doors to open for us so that we can educate and train churches, communities and individuals in Walk2Run and safeTALK
Please help us pray and intercede for anyone affected by suicide as we run our first Running in the Gap adventure from Bexhill to Canterbury in the spring.

Here’s to Running to beat Suicide and to trusting God with that original vision

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Thursday, 13 December 2018

How to shine while running in the dark

I read this today
…let your light shine before men so that they can see your good deeds…”.

Well that’s not very British is it? Sounds a lot like ‘blowing your own trumpet’ to me. It could descend into boasting, it could lead to jealousy and envy, even vandalism! Yikes!  
Ok so I was kind of cheating there, taking that phrase out of its context, which helped me see something I’d never seen before – that your good deeds are brilliant and it’s fun to let other people see them.

Here’s the whole paragraph.

“Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a basket. Instead, they set it on a lampstand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men so that they can see your good deeds and glorify God

It’s the results that are important isn't it? We let our good deeds shine out and everybody benefits Letting our own lights shine gives light to everyone so that they can see. And then other people will glorify God. That’s a win for me, a win for other people and a win for God.  

A little example
Here’s a little example from when I was on the till yesterday at The Pelham, and 2 customers came in for the first time.

Me: You’re very welcome here, we make the best coffee in the world [smile], how can I help?
Customer: Really? What coffee is it?
Me: It’s Kingdom Coffee, but it’s also that we let our coffee brew for 28 seconds which brings out the sweetness of the bean, we use the best locally produced whole frothy milk, and we have Allen, who is the best barista in the world.
Customer: Wow, that’s a perfect storm! We’ll have a latte and a cappuccino please.
After drinking the coffee…
Customer: That was the best coffee I’ve ever had in my life
Me: Told ya! Thank you, glad you enjoyed it
Customer: Not only that, there’s something different about this place, a different feel somehow. Thank you for your friendly welcome, we’ll see you next week.

A tiny running sermon
Final thought. Early morning running at this time of year requires a head torch to see and be seen, and mine is lovely and bright. Not to be outshone, a client bought himself a brand new extra bright head torch. Now we run shoulder to shoulder with twice the light, twice the safety, twice the visibility.

Let’s allow our collective good deeds to shine, and we’ll produce many times the light, many times the safety, and many times the visibility.

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Tuesday, 11 December 2018

I'm grateful for running because...

Why do I run? I run to beat suicide, I run to keep healthy, I run to donate money to suicide prevention charities and I run because I am in faith that in running together we will beat suicide.

If you’d like to know how to join us, or how to get started learning to Walk2Run for FREE, please contact me on

I love running with other people. The ‘power of the appointment’ gets me out of the door at 6 am every day and keeps me as motivated as the people I run with. Today I’ve run in the frosty dark countryside along lakesides and cow fields, closely followed by beach running under a full blazing December sun. I love running with other people. 

I also love running by myself. 
If you’ve never done it before, or it’s been a while, you should try it. 

Even on a short easy walk or run, you begin to hear yourself as the noise of a busy life fades away. It’s beautifully simple and not at all forced, you can hear your own breathing, the sounds of your own footfall, you start to pay attention to how hot or cold you are, you start to take notice of yourself. And then there are the thoughts and stresses of the week that seem to untangle themselves with every step. If you sat me in a room to ‘reflect’ for 30 minutes I’d fidget, I’d cough or sneeze, and my thoughts would turn to washing up, the next phone call, the school letter I should have returned. But in the process of running, even those thoughts just seem to effortlessly find their own place.

The mental health benefits of learning to run are well documented (google it), but you'll never really believe it until you try it. 

Come and run with us, it might just change your life.